Laziness in a Marriage will Add Tension to the Marriage

Laziness in a Marriage will Add Tension to the Marriage

Laziness, will add tension to any marriage.  There are many different ways to be lazy in a marriage and now of them are for a marriage.  Laziness can be in helping bring in finances to the home, the spending of the finances to not helping with the family at home.  It is important to talk about the roles of who will be bringing in the money, how to spend the money, what will done by whom around the home and how to raise the children are all important.  Having this discussion early on in the relationship and/or marriage is necessary if it is going to last.  But it will also be important to have this conversation throughout the marriage is also important.

The first step to get over laziness is to start small and try doing things around the house, with the kids and/or outside.  You will slowly start to see the results of doing this.  If you have a job, but don’t do much or more than what is asked, you need to go above a little more than is asked or show you are doing your best all the time, not just when someone is watching.  If you don’t have a job, start looking for one. If you can, get the best job possible that goes with the skills you have.

The next thing you need to do is look for opportunities to see what else you can do.  When you are willing to add to what you do, without adding more stress or time away from family.  It may be planting a garden, working on a project that pushes you a little bit at work.

Psalm 90:17 says, “May the favor of the Lord our God rest on us; establish the work of our hands for us— yes, establish the work of our hands.” (NIV)  When we seek God for what we are to do when it comes to work we will find favor and will continue to do what needs to be done.

Being lazy and taking a short break are different.  Lazy means you don’t want to do anything and act upon it and never do anything where taking a break means you actually will rest or take a break from what you are doing and then get back to work, whether at home or at your job.

If you are use to being lazy take time to talk to God and see what you should be doing in order to change your ways.  When you are willing to change your spouse will see a difference and it will relieve some of the tension in your marriage.  Be willing to talk about it with your spouse and see how you spouse is dealing with it.