Marriage is a relationship that God has ordained. Marriage is also said to be between one man and one woman and is to be taken seriously. It also means that 2 people will take the vows they have given are serious and will honor them throughout the marriage. They are also going to try and avoid divorce, no matter what.
There are those who are looking for the right person to fill a hole or void in their life, which is not the way to go about getting married. It is important to make sure you are getting married for the real reason and because you real love the person you are marrying. Also, the roles in a marriage are biblical, and it is important to understand what these roles are, not misunderstand them.
Many believe that women have no say in life and they are a doormat. They aren’t a doormat, and they do have a say, but it is important for wives to be submissive to their husbands. This means the wife is supportive of her husband, helps her husband. Husbands should not abuse their wives in any way or not listen or take time for their wives.
Ephesians 5:21-33 says, “21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (NIV)
When you are in a Christian marriage, you will want to make your husband or wife happy, but will do it because you want to, not because you have to. It will be something that is easy to do, not hard to do. You will know when you have the person you want to marry, because you will be happy with what you have.